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Mind/Set. A free 7 day online program for Crossfitters!
Here’s a sneak peak. day one. the intro. everything begins or ends with your thoughts. you have thousands of them daily. i am concerned about the ones you have about yourself. these thoughts will determine what you can and can not do. if you don’t believe you can do something, you will not allow yourself to do it. even if you posses the ability. it doesn’t matter if you’re trying to build an empire, a healthy relationship, or PR on a Wod. everything begins or ends with your thoughts. i define a mental block as any thought / feeling that prevents you from your potential. in this case, althetic ability. there are two types of mental blocks. internal and external. external mental blocks consists of any temporary residue you bring in to the box from the outside. for example, a fight with a girlfriend or boss, a shitty day, stress from work, etc. i am not concerned with these. they will come and go. sometimes they may even contribute to a faster time. for example, if you direct the anger you have at your boss toward the Wod. but like nitros in a race car, it’s temporary. it won’t make your engine bigger. it will just burn you out. i will focus on internal mental blocks. or simply put, our inner conflict. this conflict is created by the war between our negative core beliefs and that tiny voice that seeks growth, change, and believes anything’s possible. it’s your pseudo self vs solid self. your negative core beliefs were formed from your story, events, upbringing, addictions, relationships, everything you’ve experienced in life that has made you think the way you do. your wiring. these beliefs, mostly false, are blocking you from being the best atlhete you can be. internal conflict results in lack of self belief, doubt, mental stutter. this process produces the greastest mental block of all, FEAR. so the stronger your inner conflict, the more mental blocks you will have. okay, so how do we resolve our inner conflict? this is the million dollar question. it’s why people pay thousads of dollars for therapy. yes, breakups, fight, despression, and addictions may bring you into the room. but change only comes from resolving inner conflict, crushing your negative core beliefs, (false beliefs), and learning tools to rewire - relaying mental tracks so you can maneuver at your potential. not just in the box. in life. this is my angle into mental blocks, a therapuetic one. whatever you learn about yourself in the next 7 days is not just about faster times and heavier lifts. it’s about rewiring yourself to have a better life. i believe what we learn about ourselves in the box can be applied to our lives outside the box and vice versa. these 7 days will go by very fast. what you get out of this will be determined by what you put into it. there are two parts to this onine program. the first part is content. i will shoot you my theories, ideas, concepts, shotglass style into your inbox / phone. with each “lesson”, there will also be a mental wod. you will share your homework with the community inside my platform. this second part is the nectar of this program. doing this with others and rebuilding ourselves through each other. isn’t that the heart of crossfit? if you don’t participate in the second piece, the only thing you’re going to get out of this program is me rambling. i will emailed you a password for your login. this program starts monday, 24th. - Angry theangrytherapist@gmail.com |
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Mind/Set. A free 7 day online program for Crossfitters. - Angry |
 For one week, starting next Monday 24 - 30. 7 Days. A new approach to the mental game. Using the internet, my platform, forums, email, and Google hangouts, to process our mental / emotion CrossFit journey. I’m making it FREE FOR ALL CROSSFITTERS! This is my attempt to give back to the community by 1) creating a dialogue about what we rarely discuss, the mental / emotional side of our CrossFit journey and 2) provide a conduit between boxes so that we can encourage, support, and share our stories with each other. Email me with a username if you would like to participate. This is an online program. theangrytherapist@gmail.com Share if you care. - Angry |
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Happening this week!
Monday 5pm PST. Office Hours. Anything you want advice on or want to run by me. Must email me to get an invite. Weds 6pm PST. This week’s online hangout. ”How to stop breaking your own heart”. i e. settling for less and allowing fear and doubt get in the way of achieving goals in all areas of life: career, relationships, fitness, etc. Crossfitters, email now to participate in my free 7 day online program, Mindset. 7 Days. A new approach to the mental game of Crossfit. Crush your mental blocks. An online program. June 24 - 30th. - Angry |
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Community
Dear Angry, When I was in my early 20’s I found a great sense of community within the rooms of NA meetings. I was welcomed into these rooms, and friends homes, with huge smiles and open arms with big hugs….I was welcome, but it wasn’t my community. My boyfriend at the time was in recovery —-he was my in to this awesome and supportive environment that encouraged personal growth, self-exploration and healthy living. I finally felt like I had met a bunch of people that accepted me as I am and who we’re living life with the same principles that I had. However, evening after evening when my boyfriend was on his way to another meeting after work…I was reminded that I too needed something like that. What I needed was a sense of belonging to something greater than myself. I needed my own community. It was years ago now that I had this major realization and since then I have made a strong conscious effort to create community in different facets of my life such as school, work, joining different groups such as Taoist tai chi…but only now do I feel like I have finally found MY community thanks to you. As much as the Get Lucky video means to you, it evokes the same feelings in me as well—-letting loose, transparency, fun, & and coming together for the same thing no matter where in the world we are. I will cherish that video forever, and force myself to watch it on my lonely, depressive days. I am apart of something bigger than just myself. Thank you for creating this community, thank you for being a bright spot for me, thanking for sending so many ripples, and thank you for being you! With love and gratitude for you and everything that you do, ~Tawn I wake up almost every morning doubting my platform, wondering if my attempt to connect and grow others by using community is even possible online. Then I get an email like this and it gives me to fuel to keep pushing what I believe in. Thank you for the encouragement. I am glad you can call The Angry Therapist your community. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to be a part of your journey. See you inside, - Angry |
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People aren’t mean. They’re conflicted. Remember that the next time you wanna punch someone in the face.
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 Your 20’s. Don’t worry about where or who you’re going to be in five years. Like high school, you’re going to look back and wish you had done so many things differently. Know that and do them differently now. Focus on what’s in front on you. Work on the relationship you have with yourself first. Slow down. Enjoy today. It’s okay to not know. Eat alone in restaurants. Stop trying to prove something. Seek growth instead of validation. Shatter your veneer. Be heard. Draw boundaries. Pull from your Solid Self as much as you can. Sweat. Process (get therapy). Travel. Don’t compartmentalize people. Love fearlessly, even though you’ve been crushed before. Practice gratitude. Eat clean. Toss your scale. Pull yourself out of the victim position. Exercise your forgiveness muscle (you will need this). Don’t be concerned with what others think of you. Step out of line and jump into life, yours. Accept your story. Don’t chase paper. Seek truth. Be patient. Join the TWENTIES group and start the search. Free for a limited time. - Angry |
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5 things to start doing in your relationship to improve it immediately.
1. Shut up. Most people focus on trying to be understood rather than trying to understand. If we have two people with this mindset, the relationship can get locked. Two flipped magnets. This is rich soil for anger and resentment to grow. Stop waiting for the other person to give in. Make a decision to love by example, and in this case it means to listen. Not just for words. Listening means to fully understand where the person’s at by taking them in without judgement, accepting their state without a desire to change or fix. That’s the other piece of listen that many don’t understand. Stop trying to fix things or change people. Just be there for the person. Remember, you’re doing life with. Not for. This is a members only article. Read the rest inside. - Angry |
 My definition of corner office. - Angry |
 The Power of Space So I recently moved. Originally I put my computer in that corner on the glass table facing the wall. It was logically the best place for it, tucked away and it didn’t make my dining room look like an office. The whole point of dropping my savings and finally purchasing my first piece of property, or as my dad would say “air” since it’s a condo and not a house, was to start building a home. Not an office. But I noticed that when I woke up in the morning and sat in front of my computer with my hot coffee to write as I normally do, I didn’t feel like writing. Yeah but how many people who write for a living actually feel like writing? I get it. But it was more than not wanting to write. Something just didn’t feel right. Although my other pad was like a dark cave, I wasn’t facing a wall. My computer sat on a giant oversized table and for some strange reason it brought me peace. Facing a wall in my new pad made me feel like I was in a cubicle. And if you follow me, you know that’s my definition of hell. So for a week, I wrote in a coffee shop. Not because I wanted to. I felt like I didn’t have a choice. Today, I decided to put my computer on the dining room table, turn the dining room into “an office”. Instead of facing a wall, I now had a panoramic view of the entire condo as well as the swaying trees outside. Okay, they’re plants. Whatever. It’s a seller’s market right now! Suddenly, I felt calm. There was no panic. Something as simple as turning around, literally in this case, changed my mood and energy. Hopefully this will lead to a flurry of posts and a new book. Or at least save some money on overpriced coffee. It’s amazing how space can change things. Mood -> energy -> experience. Think about all the spaces you are in throughout the day. Notice how those spaces change you in a positive or a negative way. Notice your action / reaction because of how that space makes you feel. This is the same for relationships. You are in a space. How does it make you feel? What’s your behavior due to how this space makes you feel? Are you productive or does it cause you to run? Are you facing a wall? Is it time you reposition yourself? - Angry |
Hi, my name is John Kim and I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist. In 2010, I started a blog. Partly to document my own journey but also to create a dialogue that may help others. Coaching people online was not my intent but by the end of that year, I had two clients.
