Catalyst of the month
Turbos kicked in or something, because Liz has been on fire this month. She’s been posting about mindfulness every Monday, doing free sessions, and running online meditation classes. Her energy has been amazing and she’s has a fierce determination that’s been quite contagious.
I threw my favorite questions at her, the Vanity Fair questions.
What is your current state of mind?
~ Energetic and empowered.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
~ Incredibly passionate, intense sex with my partner; before, during and after. A solo jog as the sun is coming up, with barely anyone in sight as my breath is even and my legs are unstoppable. A delicious, savory meal followed by a chocolatey sweet. The moment I walk in the door to my puppy’s contagious positive energy. Sitting in the sunroom on my chair hammock as the sun is setting. When my partner pulls me in for a hug, then brings me in even tighter with a gentle hand placed along side my head.
What is your greatest fear?
~ Losing those I love, being alone.
Which historical figure do you most identify with?
~ I identify with those who did not settle. Those who pushed the envelope and strived for something more. Something BETTER. Those who stood up for their beliefs. I identify with those who did not quiet those voices inside them, threw caution to the wind and said, “Fuck it! Let’s do this.”
Which living person do you most admire?
~ My auntie Debbie K. What a woman! She is who she is, free of judgement toward herself and others. Encouraging, loving, supportive. She takes care of herself and intentionally cares of others once her needs are met. Her marriage is full of love and respect.
What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
~ My internal struggle of putting others before myself. I am getting better at this, but I still catch myself putting my needs aside.
What is the trait you most deplore in others?
~ The lack of personal responsibility.
What is it that you most dislike?
~ I cannot stand the sound of people chewing. That gross noise of someone’s lips smacking while they eat. Chewing with one’s mouth open. Too much food in one’s mouth at once. Yuck.
What is your greatest extravagance?
~ My running shoes, headphones, kindle (a gift I had no idea I would treasure as much as I do) and journal.
What do you most value in your friends?
~ Understanding, patience, respect and time management along with the strength and willingness to call me on my shit.
What is your favorite journey?
~ The one I am currently on.
What is your most treasured possession?
~ A very simple necklace given to me. It’s a circle on a chain. Within the circle is a camera lens, up close. Cool looking and one of the most thoughtful gifts I’ve ever received.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
~ There are various virtues pertaining to self-control. I understand them and can contain myself, but my goodness. Overrated! It is as though we pride ourselves on self-control at times. It’s nice to disregard that at times and let go of this internal battle of control.
On what occasion do you lie?
~ I lie when I don’t want to do something, but need an excuse to get out of it. I could be honest, but I find myself feeling guilty for not wanting to take part, so I lie. I’m getting better at respecting my “I just don’t want to”mind frame and stating this, but I’m not fully there yet.
Which living person do you most despise?
~ Despise? I honestly cannot think of one person. There are people I dislike, but I don’t have time to channel my energy into despising or hating anyone. That is far too draining.
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
~ Corey. My love. My partner. My lighthouse, rock, port. My aphrodisiac, my favorite smell, my loss of breath, my weak knees, my challenge, my comfort.
When and where were you happiest?
~ Growing up, I was so happy hearing the “happy birthday” song, sung to me at my birthday parties. It was a time when I had the spotlight, positive attention and loved ones around me which was not a constant in my life. Now, as an adult and without the toxicity I had growing up, my happiest moment to date would be when I opened myself up to the possibility of a healthy relationship which is something I never had before.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
~ I would change my inability to fly. How awesome would that be?!
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
~ I travelled on my own in various parts of the world, at sixteen I came out as bi-sexual, I jumped out of a plane (with a parachute), I jumped off cliffs into water, I graduated H.S., college and graduate school, I embraced love, I broke free of my unhealthy patterns and toxic relationships, acknowledged my flaws and decided to make changes to better my life. There are a number of things in my life I am proud of which qualify for this. I do not want to narrow it down to one.
If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?
~ Less enmeshment, more respect of personal space.
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
~ That point where you give up and figure there is no point in fighting anymore. When you decide you are no longer worth the challenge.
What is your favorite occupation?
~ I love what I’m doing. Therapist, life coach, meditation instructor. Wouldn’t it be cool to be a professional roller derby skater or acrobat? Maybe a novelist, photographer or hot air balloon guide. So many possibilities. Until I try them all, my favorite would have to be therapist: life guide and journey companion.
What is your most marked characteristic?
~ My unrelenting will.
Who is your favorite hero of fiction?
~ There are so many, but I love Merida from the movie Brave. This movie brings women to the forefront and encourages girls to be strong and strive for something more. Merida wants to control her own destiny. Something I wish all girls/women could embrace. Also, Poison Ivy (yes a villain), but what a badass! Female, eco-friendly, the ability to kill and cure with a kiss, lesbian and fights for what she feels is right.
How would you like to die?
~ Either in my sleep, at a ripe old age after having lived a long and fruitful life, or in some insane blaze of glory like a botched robbery where I was attempting to accomplish some Robin Hood type scenario. Either way, peaceful, happy and quick.
What is your motto?
~ Try. Nothing in life is permanent, so why not try something better, new and/or different?
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