 I just created this group. Men in the community, join it. It’s gonna be a place to create an honest dialogue about our journey. Run things by each other. Vent. Shoot the shit. Drink beer <— once we get our hangouts going. - Angry Find it in “recently active groups”. |
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If Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are the main toys you play with during recess. Think of The Angry Therapist as the little Matchbox car you found on the bus the other day that you keep in your back pocket, and secretly play with throughout the day when no one’s watching. - Angry |
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 The New American Dream You don’t have to be a movie or television star to make residual income anymore. The internet, social media, ability to build a brand from your own home, allows anyone with a passion to create and distribute their own product. It doesn’t matter what you do. You can be teacher, writer, filmmaker, knitter, photographer, one of those guys who paints famous faces on dead roaches. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are fearless about it. Balls. Most people are afraid to put themselves (gifts) out there. We all care what others think. But if other people’s opinions of you block you from throwing your stone, you will never be able to send ripples. Instead, you will build something and break it down. Build and break. Build and break. This will turn into a pattern that will leave you discouraged, exhausted, and questioning your story. You will go from creator to consumer. “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” Number two. I know I didn’t announce a number one. But I didn’t think of a number two until now. Don’t try to go back and undo. Keep moving forward. I understand that writing is rewriting. I understand that we must hone our craft. I understand that it takes a thousand kicks to get good at one kick. What I mean is don’t dwell. What you created needed to be created in order for you to have created what you’ve created now. Read that again. A poem, a film, a book, a song, doesn’t matter. There is always a process, a journey, and you must know and accept it. One thing that will stop this path instantly is Failure. Eliminate that word from your vocabulary. I’m not saying don’t just say it anymore. Don’t believe in it. Failure is a concept created by your own insecurities and limited beliefs about yourself. Simply put, failure is a false belief, a cognitive distortion, an easy way out. If you believe in it, speed bumps will turn into giant walls. You must fall in order to fly. Ask the Wright Brothers. There’s no way around it. Like finding love, success never comes as you imagined or expected. So when you “fail”, you are actually learning, growing, and moving toward your path. Failure just means you are becoming a better you. Unless you believe in it. You never know how your success will unfold. You can’t predict where you will get your big break or inspiration, what doors will open and when. Of course you have to have goals. But you can’t hold them so tightly that the sweat from your grip blurs what’s written. Be open to everything. Sometimes you have to allow your road to appear instead of getting stuck trying to pave one. And finally, and probably the most important, always live in “what ifs” instead of “what is”. What if you could make money while you’re sleeping instead of when you’re awake so you can do things that make you feel alive when you’re eyes are open? That’s the question I’ve been asking myself for the last two years. And I believe it will be what creates my path. Once you accept reality, what is, your dreams will never come true. The only thing that’s a statement is that white fire that burns deep inside you. Everything else is a question. The New American Dream is not a picket fence and two point five kids. It’s a mindset. Anything’s possible. And if you believe it isn’t, nothing will be. - Angry |
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 The other day, Padhia was telling me about her design firm she used to own and how she went about projects. She took people’s ideas but always returned them with her own spin. The result was clients liking something they didn’t even know they wanted. I think this is a great mindset for relationships. It’s easy to give people what they want. Well, not always. But try giving them something they didn’t even know they wanted. What would that even look like? Hint. Don’t ask them. Only you hold the answers. It has to do with you being uniquely you. Chew on this. The probability that your parents had sex that night or morning or whenever and you were created exactly the way you were created is 1 in 400 trillion. That’s trillion with a “t”. Put a trillion people in a room. Well, there aren’t even a trillion people on this planet. Okay, you get the point. Relationships are all about connection. How we approach that connection is where your spin comes in. Connection involves both verbal and non-verbal communication, but also energy, attitude, and how you go into things, ultimately the power of your presence and how that makes someone feel. Ask yourself what makes you that 1 in 400 trillion. What do you radiate that stamps you as unique? Whether it’s your twisted humor, fearless laughter, attention to detail, your specialized taste in music, food, film, books, your thoughtfulness, the way you think, see the world, not being embarrassed about that gap in between your front teeth, everything you do and how you do it, cooking, singing, creating, coaching, amplify all of it and shoot it into every connection you have with your partner. Imagine that you’re trying to spin a top and the more you show you, the faster than top will spin. If you bring your spin to the table, they will feel things they haven’t before because these things were never presented this way before. Suddenly they like things they didn’t know they liked, and now want things they didn’t know they wanted. Your spin is what makes you valuable. Know that. But most people see their spin as defects. They water themselves down. They don’t want to stick out. By doing this, they go from 1 in a trillion to one wobbly top. So ask yourself, do you want to be a wobbly top or a miracle? Put your spin in your relationship and give them things they didn’t even know they wanted. - Angry |
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A follower gave me a fun idea this morning. She said why don’t you ask your community to give you a 10 second dance clip to “Get Lucky” by Daft Punk which you were dancing to in Office Hours yesterday and I’ll edit it together, so you don’t have to dance alone. Okay, she didn’t say the last part. But it’s true. I am sick of dancing alone. So, a 5 - 10 second dance clip to “Get Lucky”. Email it to me. TEAM ANGRY, this is a must. It’s time to show everyone else in the community what it means to get out of your comfort zone. theangrytherapist@gmail.com Time to remind ourselves who we are. We already got a handful. We want yours as well. Here’s mine. - Angry |
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A follower gave me a fun idea this morning. She said why don’t you ask your community to give you a 10 second dance clip to “Get Lucky” by Daft Punk which you were dancing to in Office Hours yesterday and I’ll edit it together, so you don’t have to dance alone. Okay, she didn’t say the last part. But it’s true. I am sick of dancing alone. So, a 5 - 10 second dance clip to “Get Lucky”. Email it to me. TEAM ANGRY, this is a must. It’s time to show everyone else in the community what it means to be get out of your comfort zone. theangrytherapist@gmail.com Time to remind ourselves who we are. - Angry |
 Remember those choose your own adventure books? I don’t. I never read. But I heard about them. They were books that presented you with situations then gave you choices on which path to take. Your adventure depended on your choices. I think life is like this. A story is presented. Yours. You know it well. You’re living it. You know everything that’s happened up until this point. There are characters in this story. Some good, some bad, some shady. You are the protagonist, and the more drama, conflict, and struggle the protagonist faces, the better. Not so much? Have you ever read a great story that didn’t have those elements? It’s what creates character arc, gives the character some where to go. Without this, there is no journey, no revelations, and no growth. The story runs flat. There is no message or lesson for the audience to walk away with, changed. Only facts. Here’s my point. Most see life as something that is presented to us and we don’t have many choices. Shit happens and we just have to go through it. This is a mindset that will turn your life into a pop up book. Not a choose your own adventure. The truth is we all have the power to direct our story by choosing what paths we take. And know that without conflict, heartbreak, struggle, and odds stacked against you at times, there is no chance of a great story. If you life has been pretty easy and smooth sailing then I’m sorry. Your story sucks right now. I hope you start going through some shit so you can also have a great story. Make that the focus. Step back, see your story. Not just what you’re going through right now, but your entire story, everything that’s happened, good or bad, and know that whatever you are creating something a amazing. Choose paths that will make your story great. Where is your story at this point? Are you entering a turning point or act break? Are you down for the count? How are you going to defy the odds to accomplish your goal or get to where you want to go? Based on everything you know about the characters and the situation presented, what do you choose? - Angry |
Hi, my name is John Kim and I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist. In 2010, I started a blog. Partly to document my own journey but also to create a dialogue that may help others. Coaching people online was not my intent but by the end of that year, I had two clients.
